First of all when both were all in and cards came up the dealer should have gathered the hands closer to the center of the table for showdown, even if TV cameras not present. Once both are all-in and cards exposed the dealer now controls your cards, your decision making is over.
This would fall under a house rule thing, I would think every home or cardroom has a different rule concerning something like this. A Tournament director is warranted or a vote from all players in the tourney. Not all circumstances can be foreseen. On the spot rules interpretation is needed more frequently then expected. When setting up any kind of competition, assure the rules are clear, and have a backup plan for when the unexpected rears it's ugly head.
Frob is correct, your steaming created the mess that could have been avoided. It happened and hopefully all can learn a lesson about fair play and tilt control.
Later,
